My confession this week?

Hubby is officially unemployed. The boss man says there ain't no more money.

And why is this a confession? Well, we've known for a few weeks and just told our own families in the past few days.

For one we needed to wrap our heads around the fact that it was really happening. And for the love, what were we going to do next? First, we went on that lovely vacation I posted pictures from. Oh yes we did! The cottage was already paid for in full and we had to feed everyone whether we were at the beach or at home. Plus, when hubby starts a new job there may not be any vacation time for awhile. And then there will be a getting back on our feet period (dear lord, please let it be short) which will mean scrimping and saving, no vacations included.

We also didn't say anything because we saw this coming like a freight train and are a bit embarrassed that we trusted that rat bastard (how I hate the boss man is enough for a whole 'nother post). He had assured everyone that once the new contract was signed they would get paid. However, he has lied like a dog (for so long he has fleas) about why all the paychecks have been late since April. Yeah, yeah, we know, apparently we chose to ignore that big red button flashing "Danger Will Robinson". And Brian has been poking around about a new job since then, but the checks eventually showed up with big promises and we would forget about the hassle until the next payday. Then the shit hit the fan, he didn't know when the next check would come in, but everyone would be rewarded for sticking around when it did. That's when the rats started scurrying and we knew the ship was going down.

Bottom line: What does this mean? That hubby and most of the guys in his small company worked for a month and never got paid. The boss didn't admit until almost payday that there was no money. Of course he didn't fire anyone, or dissolve the company. That left them with no choice but to quit. Anyone familiar with unemployment benefits knows this means they are not guaranteed to receive anything. Yes, that possibly sucks the hardest.

Mostly I hadn't said anything here because, well Tessie at Messing with Texas said it quite well in her divorce post "In my world, if you have something serious to talk about, and you can't make a joke about it or keep a stiff upper lip, then you just shut the fuck up. No One Wants To Hear That Shit, and all that." So yeah I guess I felt like posting anything about it would make me sound like I was asking for sympathy, oh woe is me.

So to recap, it sucks.

But it's not the end of the world. And hey it's sure to lead to some blogger fodder.

Be looking forward to such fun post topics as:
Insomnia or Nervous Tummy: You make the call.
We Could Travel to Europe on the Credit Card Points We Will be Wracking Up: Too bad we can't afford to eat when we get there.
No Mommy Can Not Ride the Hot Sweaty Bus on a Field Trip with You: Karma kicked my ass and now I have a JOB!
How to Not Kill Your Spouse While You are Both at Home with No Jobs and No Money: A he said she said piece. (okay that may have to wait until this all passes over, because right now, not so funny)
Shit You Can Sell on eBay to Pay the Mortgage: No honey, mommy doesn't know where your American Girl dolls are.
Count Your Blessings: At least we weren't pigs in the housing heyday and will not be forced to short sale our house no matter how bad things get.


You are not alone, although I'm not sure that makes it any better.

Here's sending you guys a lot of positive thoughts! I hope he gets REEMPLOYED soon!

July 17, 2008 at 9:47 AM  

Oh man, that's tough! Best wishes for jobs soon!

July 17, 2008 at 10:04 AM  

What a nightmare. Bad management is the worst and can suck people dry. I am so sorry about your situation. Hopefully your husband finds somewhere incredible to work where they are honest and upfront and hopefully they don't have anything too dramatic they need to be honest and upfront about in the first place.

July 17, 2008 at 10:08 AM  

I am sorry to hear this. This seems to be a rampant problem all around.
Coach has had to let about 100 employees go in the last year. He hated (and still does) doing this, he felt obligated to give people jobs, and to help w/ their families. (he is NOT like your hubbys boss)
IN our business, it looks like it may pick up in the fall. I hope so. We are losing $$$$ every month just staying open.
I have not blogged about this, because I am trying to "will" it away.

July 17, 2008 at 10:23 AM  

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. It seems like every time I turn around someone I know is getting laid off or struggling... it's trying times.

Hopefully he'll find a new, reliable job soon!

July 17, 2008 at 11:27 AM  

Oh hugs. I know this totally sucks. But you will get through. I lost my job due to downsizing the day I signed on my house...we survived. Phew. You will too!

July 17, 2008 at 12:28 PM  

My goodness, holy crap, I hope you don't mind my saying I will pray for you? Good luck and best wishes!

July 17, 2008 at 12:37 PM  

Oh that totally sucks. We just had major layoffs here . . . I was lucky. And we were lucky they got laid off for the benefits. I really do feel for you and I'm thinkin' about you!

July 17, 2008 at 1:21 PM  

Thanks for all the good wishes!
Gary you and anyone else who would like to pray for us are highly encouraged to do so!
We are surely getting a new perspective on things. We are all healthy, (mostly) happy and most importantly, in this together. We have supportive family and friends. This may be the push to make a change we wouldn't have made otherwise. Everything happens for a reason, although I don't know what that reason is, I have faith this will all work out for us.

July 17, 2008 at 1:38 PM  

ugh. so sorry to hear this - I'm sending good 'job vibes' you way.

July 17, 2008 at 4:22 PM  

that just really really sux. as i said, let us know if you need anything. seriously, it's no problem to pick up a few extra things at the store or cook extra for dinner.. i mean it!

i saw on news yesterday 100,000 unemployed in central florida.....bastards

July 17, 2008 at 4:29 PM  

It sounds crass, but would Hubby have gone to that job if he wasn't getting paid? If not, now;s the time to find that job.

When he finds out what it is, can he let me know? I'm still looking.

July 18, 2008 at 3:38 PM  

Sorry to hear the news but i must say I admire your positive outlook and that you can actually joke about it and find the humor in it.

I can say that every time someone I knew has been in this same situation it has ended up being a blessing in disguise. In most cases they found higher paying jobs with better benefits.

I don't blame you a bit for going ahead with that vacation. You had many reasons to do so. We definitely think alike!

Good luck and keep that positive attitude.

July 19, 2008 at 2:43 PM  

Well, you're in my prayers. I know how hard it is to be expecting the boss to come through and they don't.

Here's to a quick re-employment!

July 19, 2008 at 3:21 PM  

I'm so sorry. But happy you're sense of humor is intact.

We went through (a thankfully brief) period of unemployment about 3 years ago. Although it was very stressful, I think it did encourage some family bonding and ultimately strengthened our marriage.

Best of wishes for a new job soon.

July 19, 2008 at 3:23 PM  

That stinks. The stress! Good luck with this.

July 20, 2008 at 11:56 PM  

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